Having too much or too little of a sex drive often leads to unhealthy behaviors
DOUGLAS C. BROOKS, MS, LCSW-Rfe
Communication is the key. Couples should feel free to talk about their sex drives, their likes, dislikes and how they want their relationship to grow. Regarding their sex drives, couples should be honest with what they each want (and how often) and what they expect from each other. If one has a drive that the other cannot or does not want to meet then masturbation is a good remedy. However, I often push my clients to never forget about intimacy. And that is the therapeutic question. People should feel valued and comfortable with their partner.
J. RYAN FULLER, PH.D.
When couples face sexual incompatibility in marriage, I emphasize giving each partner concrete skills to address the issue, including how to: manage their own emotions, effectively communicate, and collaboratively problem solve. In my experience, avoiding the issue only leads to the status quo at best, and more commonly passive aggression, open hostility, or distance. But many couples don’t know how to move things forward, especially when it comes to such a charged issue.
I also have each partner determine how they feel about their sexual life, the meaning it takes on, and what each would want that could improve how they feel about being intimate and more sexually, romantically, and emotionally satisfied.
While we work on these issues, it is possible to begin to understand what other important aspects of their relationship and personal lives are strengths, and can be built upon, and where weaknesses and deficits exist. Then we can work comprehensively on the relationship, productively improving the entirety of the relationship.
JOR-EL CARABALLO, LMHC
When partners are not sexually compatible, it can be difficult to keep a healthy sexual relationship alive. Talking openly with one another, either independently or with a licensed therapist, can be helpful in identifying possible solutions to sexual incompatibility. Leer más